This isn't a stay-or-go question
Weighing a relationship up over several weeks makes sense when the question is whether it can get better. It does not make sense when someone is being hurt, threatened, monitored, or pressured. That is not a decision to deliberate over — it is a situation to get help with, and the help exists.
People who can help right now
- Immediate danger — call your local emergency number.
- United States — National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788. thehotline.org
- United Kingdom — National Domestic Abuse Helpline, 0808 2000 247. nationaldahelpline.org.uk
- South Africa — GBV Command Centre, 0800 428 428.
- Australia — 1800RESPECT, 1800 737 732.
- Elsewhere — an international directory of local services.
A note on privacy
If your device or accounts may be monitored, use a browser's private window, a friend's phone, or a public computer, and clear your history afterwards.